[Reposted from a year ago today. The original with many comments is here.] My sister died last night. I can’t imagine life without her on this earth. Teresa my buddy, my friend, my teacher… She found out sometime in May that she had terminal liver cancer. For the record, that means you starve and swell [...]
Last summer was the summer my sister died, and it’s all coming back—or did it ever go away? My wife and I are planning to go to ZoukFest this June in Albuquerque. I was there last year, taking advantage of my free lodging in exchange for Webmaster chores, in the self-assumed role of famous-writer-holed-up-in-his-hotel-room (minus [...]
Simply put, I am a complete wreck. The first two visits to Austin this summer to visit my sister were hard enough—when she died in late August, it hit me like a freight train. Going back a third time for a memorial celebration was actually the most difficult of all. After visiting her room at [...]
Teresa Virginia Farr, 1948-2010
“Teresa idolized you, did you know that?” (Thus wrote cousin Joyce…) No, I didn’t, actually. As I told my wife this afternoon, “Maybe if I had, I’d have behaved better.” The last 10 years, especially. What with the chaos of the move to New Mexico and subsequent turmoil, lack of funds, and generally having my [...]
My sister died last night. I can’t imagine life without her on this earth. Teresa my buddy, my friend, my teacher… She found out sometime in May that she had terminal liver cancer. For the record, that means you starve and swell up until something breaks. Last night it did, apparently while I was lying [...]
Grief does strange things to a man. But why is my dying sister so wise? For weeks now I’ve been only semi-functional, a terrible handicap since I normally only manage about 50% anyway. As soon as I hit Austin, I stopped at the H.E.B. to buy some groceries. A sack of key limes from Mexico [...]
My sister is still okay with visitors, and so I’m off again. Same deal as before: two days down, because why push it, and then the weirdly groovy megalopolis of Austin in the boiling, godawful heat… There’s a new automated toll road on the north side of town, too. I never saw how to pay [...]
I just realized I had a song with my sister in it! Back in Abilene, Texas about 50 years ago, there was a movie theater on Butternut Street where I went almost every Saturday afternoon. The place was actually a surplus quonset hut, one of those old WWII military buildings that looked like a big [...]
For the last 10 years, I’ve struggled with every godforsaken evil thing that anyone could feel–consequently living poor to boot–and never got it together to come back to where I have an actual BROTHER and a SISTER…not to mention my own cultural heritage of Austin in the ’60s. You can’t buy this stuff, you have to live it. I do have a family, in other words: my siblings! DUH!!!